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Some sayings on women
From Chan Philosophy
“The Treasure of the Dhamma”
Is women’s mentality narrow?
No woman, with the two finger wisdom, which is hers, can ever hope to reach those heights which are attained only by the sages.
When one’s mind is well concentrated and wisdom never fails, does the fact of being a woman make any difference?
A virtuous woman
Such a virtuous lady who possesses religious devotion, cultivates virtue, is endowed with wisdom and learning and is given to charity, makes a success of her life in this very existence.
Duties of a wife
To organise the work of the household with efficiency.
To treat her servants with concern.
To strive to please her husband (applies to husband also).
To take good care of what he earns.
To possess religious devotion.
To be virtuous in conduct.
To be kind.
To be liberal.
Five woes of women
A woman at a tender age goes to her husband’s family and leaves her relations behind.
A woman is subject to menstruation.
A woman is subject to pregnancy.
A woman has to bring forth offspring.
Five powers that make a woman confident
Power of beauty.
Power of wealth.
Power of kinship.
Power of procreation.
Power of virtue.
It is due to the power of virtue that a woman is reborn in fortunate states after birth.
Woman is also wise
Man is not always the only wise one, woman is also wise.
Karma to fulfil her wishes
A woman with good karma can easily achieve the following:
To be reborn in a proper family
To be married into a proper family
To live in her home without a rival
To have a son, to continue lineage
To have influence over her husband.
Some women are better than men
Some women are indeed better (than men). These are women who are wise, virtuous, who regard mother-in-law as a goddess, and who are chaste.
Seven kinds of wives
A troublesome wife
One who is forever nagging, ill tempered, neglects her husband and is a source of constant harassment.
A Thievish wife
One who squanders the husband’s hard-earned income, is untruthful and swindles him whenever his back is turned.
A Lordly wife
One who is haughty, harsh in speech, arrogant and domineering over her husband.
A Motherly wife
One who is kind, compassionate and forever caring for the welfare of the husband, guarding his wealth and property.
A Sisterly wife
One who is respectful, modest, obedient and treats her husband with tender care and attention.
A Friendly wife
One who is of noble birth, virtuous and who delights herself in the company of her husband.
A Subservient wife
One who is humble, attentive and tends to every need of the husband without question, whilst enduring all inconvenience in order to please him.
It is a blessing
Whose wife is friendly and of equal years, devoted, good and bears many children, faithful and virtuous and of gentle birth. That is the blessing that in wives appears.
Best Dowry
From parents to daughter
Do not slander, the wife should not speak evil of her husband and parents-in-laws to others, neither should their shortcomings nor household quarrels be reported elsewhere. A wife should not listen to the reports and stories of other households.
Virtues that women should cultivate
Religious devotion
A sense of shame and fear
Not disposed towards malice and animosity and anger
Not niggardly but large-hearted
Pure in conduct
Virtuous and moral
Learned and steeped in knowledge
Ardent and zealous
Mentally alert and nimble
Wise and sagacious